I write about things people don’t really talk about, like miscarriage, infertility, death, and grief. I explore how language can be used to reframe one’s perspective. I am perhaps most successful at this when talking to my children and other people about egg donation. By allowing myself to fully travel along my grief path, unflinchingly and tenderly, I find ritual, meaning, purpose, and beauty in unexpected places.
Memoir
Losing family and finding it again in Mother Nurture (currently editing)
Life with and without my father in Crosses + Noughts (currently writing)
Anthologies
On sexuality and coming of age in Funny, Not Funny: Shaking the Tree, Vol. 7
On grieving my father during a pandemic in But I’m Still Here: Shaking the Tree, Vol. 5
On grieving during a pandemic in the The San Diego Decameron Project
On sexuality and my parents’ divorce in That’s a Terrible Idea. What Time?: Shaking the Tree, Vol. 4
On rape in Year in Ink, Vol. 13
On miscarriage and love in Year in Ink, Vol. 11
A letter to the baby I miscarried in Three Minus One
Essays
On parenting during a pandemic in the San Diego Union-Tribune
On how having a baby cures childlessness, not infertility for RESOLVE
On busting an infertility myth in The ART of Infertility
On miscarriage advice in The Daily Parent
On how to talk about egg donation in The Donor Conception Network (members-only newsletter)
On talking to a baby about egg donation on PVED.org
On miscarriage grief in Seleni
readings/performance
On choosing an alternative path to motherhood for So Say We All’s ‘Bad Egg‘ VAMP (April 2025)
On the death of my father for So Say We All’s ‘Vampires‘ VAMP (February 2023)
Conceptual
My Conception Story™ (forthcoming)
Other Bylines
Interview with artist Lily Ludlow for Tokion
Interview with artist Neilah Myers for Tokion
Various boutique and bar reviews for Paper
Newsletter
Diversions is where I combine my words and others’ into a digital love letter for travellers, immigrants, parents and parents-in-waiting.
Content Editor
Let’s Talk About Egg Donation
is the first book written by, with, and for parents
who created their families through egg and embryo donation